May
6
2017

What We Believe: Part 17 - Union of Minds and Hearts.

Posted by Father Benign, SJ in Our Spirituality


  We have reflected on the fundamentals of  the marriage contract between a man and a woman and their mutual consent. to share their lives with each other and only with each other.

  Source: magnetstreet.comThis marriage contract or covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament. (1601)  “It is by following Christ , renouncing themselves, and taking up their crosses that spouses will be able to ‘receive’ the original meaning of marriage and live it with the help of Christ.” (1615). As a sacrament, the spouses receive special graces for the living of their marriage contract.

  It will not be easy to maintain the relationship of companionship and friendship that is required for the complete giving of self to one’s spouse all day and every day. An ancient wise man gave this directive: “To think the same and to wish the same makes for a perfect friendship.”

 It is that kind of relationship needed for marriage.

  To achieve such rapport between spouses requires constant agreement between the spouses on what should be done lest there be discord  and conflict. In other words, being alert to the desire of the spouse as the course of action or decision.  The above rule of what makes for a perfect friendship  applies  in this and similar situations.Source: christozwedding.or

 There comes to mind the remark of an elderly man on the occasion of his 60th wedding anniversary: “Married for 60 years and never had a serious argument or words of anger.” No doubt the graces of the Sacrament of Marriage came to their help in time of potential discord.

  “St. John Chrysostonm suggests that young husbands should say to their wives: I have taken you in my arms, and I love you, and I prefer you to my life itself. For the present life is nothing, and my most ardent dream is to spend it with you in such a way that we may be assured of not being separated in the life reserved for us… I place your love above all things, and nothing would be more bitter or painful to me than to be of a different mind than you.”.(2365).


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Father Benign, S.J. is the pen name of a member of the Society of Jesus (Jesuits) in Canada.







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Ximenej on May 6, 2017 - 12:36 PM

It was shocking to me, that nor the word or the essence of love, was ever mention it this description of this intimate sacrament between two believers and followers of Christ. But then, there are some that still see religion as rules of a contract (as did the Pharisees) and not as a means to share our lives with God.